Achievement Web Int'l Blog

We all have dreams of the future and we love to talk about it because it gives us direction as well as keeps us hoping that things will be better. This dreaming of our future is setting goals inventory to our brain but no mindset was created especially if these dreams were borne out of somebody else desires for our future and no resistance was made when we took that decision.

I loved writing long before I fell in love with music and I have always dreamed of being a flight attendant so that I can see the world for free other than the fact that the benefits are good, it pays well and you get to meet a lot of people and opportunities for personal advancement but my father never allowed me to work away from home. Every time I don’t like the work I was doing I always looked back to that dream thinking how different my circumstance would have been if I made it there.

I stopped dreaming about it in the end because I needed to move forward because I knew there was nothing else I could do to change what already happened anyway but I never stopped writing and at that time I had no idea how my writing skills could change my life. I set my goals and kept a positive mindset but I have to admit that I reflect on being a flight attendant once in awhile maybe because this experience is already taken by my brain to memory, but I never allowed it to dictate my future. My goals changed after I got married and had 4 children. The Law of Attraction highlights those goals for me that when I worked abroad, I was drawn to meet writers and I was able to work with them in publishing our anthology of short stories. I am grateful because I was able to set a goal that made me what I am today.

You can create as many goals and dreams you want but you have to put an effort because the Law of Attraction unbelievable results only happen if you practiced the principles and habituate yourself to using it without any inhibitions and self-talk of all the reasons why you can have whatever you deserve. Be honest with yourself, see whether the goal you are setting is for you and decide whether you have the necessary skills to achieve it then take steps in educating yourself about this particular goal as well as all the aspect relative to it and build it in your mind.

“This year, I resolve to make more time for myself in my schedule.” Sound familiar? Every year we make New Years’ resolutions with the idea that we will make ourselves into better people if we just make a resolution. If we could only become more fit because we buy a membership to a gym, we would all look like Venus and Adonis. But it’s not that easy. Achieving our goals is a round the clock, day in day out, month to month and year to year effort.

Nothing worth having comes easily. How many times do you see advertisements telling you that you can have what you want whether it’s a new lifestyle, more friends or nicer hair if you just buy something? But how do you make resolutions that stick and actually effect real change?

New Year just happens to be a time when many of us pause and reflect. We may become aware that something is missing from our lives or that those resolutions made last year have somehow slipped by the wayside in our busy lives. The best way to make a resolution that you are going to stick with is to consider:

How motivated am I to change?

Is my resolution in line with my long term goals?

Have I framed my resolution in a positive way?

Can I take practical steps that are reasonable and do-able

How will I make myself accountable to achieve change?

Becoming aware that something that needs to change in your life is the first step to growth, being motivated to change is another story. Let’s take my example: I want to make more time for myself instead of giving it away. I am motivated by my resolution because having more time for myself will make a big difference in my enjoyment of life. I will have time to read books, see friends, take a course or just do what I feel like in the moment. Imagine that! I’m definitely motivated!

My long term goals are to be financially independent, successful, happy, secure and having time to enjoy life. Making time for myself is in line with my long term goals and actually makes the last one more achievable. My resolution makes me feel as if I am getting closer to aligning my goals with my life. This is something I want!

Notice how I framed my resolution in a positive way. It is something I am willing to work toward because it has a good outcome for me and I will feel positive about achieving change. Feeling positive about my resolution helps me to fulfill it.

Starting today I will take steps to find more time for myself. I resolve to leave one evening unplanned each week to do what ever I feel like doing and as I tend to work through lunch I will schedule a one hour break for lunch at least once a week. Notice I am taking small steps toward my goal? I am doing what I feel I can manage. If I take too radical a change I may doom my efforts, winding up with too much time on my hands and leaving other parts of my life neglected. I can manage small changes in behavior and when I feel ready, I will take on more.

Making myself accountable is one of the biggest challenges of making resolutions stick and it is one of the reasons why we all backslide on them. I will rely on my coach to help me with this one. Each week I will check in with her to give her a progress report. When I first started working with her, she gave me a life wheel to complete. Filling the chart in, I noticed that I had been neglecting my personal life, so this became a focus of our work. Little by little I have been reclaiming more of my time for my own use while I work toward my other goals.

There’s nothing wrong with making resolutions at this time of the year because this is as good a time any to make positive changes that enhance your life. Follow the simple steps and if you are not already working with a coach, find one. A coach will help you identify your strengths and work with them to help you define the steps you must take to reach your goals. A coach will keep you on track all year long so next year you won’t be mumbling the same old resolutions from the year before. If you find that one of the main reasons you never follow through on your resolutions, it could be because you lack accountability to yourself. A coach helps keep you accountable.

Happy New Year!

And may all your resolutions stick!